But he does have a shy side and is uncomfortable in large groups where he knows no one.
I appreciate all the details you provided, Karen, because they paint a fully-fleshed out picture of your relationship.
Listen, if anybody in the world would be expected to defend an inappropriate flirt, it’s me.
I’ve toed the line for so many years that I don’t even know where the line is anymore.
The connection between the two of you is undeniable; you can feel it. What I’ve noticed more and more as I’ve coached men on dating is that so many of the women that men get caught up on and start chasing after are, in fact, not actually women they really Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone.
So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating.
It would easy to demonize your boyfriend as evil, but you bother to mention that he is sociable, that he praises your beauty, and that he wants to marry you.
Which is why his over-the-top leering is so highly inappropriate….
Namely, you need to have an emotionless heart-to-heart with him. Instead, find a time when everything’s humming along and say, “I’ve been thinking…” Now you have his attention.
Talking to strangers isn’t a habit – it’s a personality trait – one that doesn’t go away upon request. I spent a half hour talking to a very attractive man in her presence at an art gallery, but didn’t get chewed out for it.
No, my crime was in talking to someone that my girlfriend felt was threatening – even though the threat was all in her head.
Before you go for the kill, let him know that you love him and that 95% of the time he makes you feel special.
It’s just that this small percentage of the time, he might not even realize that he stares at other women.